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Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage

Average Customer Rating: 3.5
Release Date: 2010-01-05
Publisher:Viking Adult
Author Elizabeth Gilbert
Number of pages:285
ISBN:0670021652
Language:Unknown: English; Original Language: English; Published: English;

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At the end of her bestselling memoir Eat, Pray, Love, Elizabeth Gilbert fell in love with Felipe, a Brazilian-born man of Australian citizenship who’d been living in Indonesia when they met. Resettling in America, the couple swore eternal fidelity to each other, but also swore to never, ever, under any circumstances get legally married. (Both were survivors of previous bad divorces. Enough said.) But providence intervened one day in the form of the United States government, which—after unexpectedly detaining Felipe at an American border crossing—gave the couple a choice: they could either get married, or Felipe would never be allowed to enter the country again. Having been effectively sentenced to wed, Gilbert tackled her fears of marriage by delving into this topic completely, trying with all her might to discover through historical research, interviews, and much personal reflection what this stubbornly enduring old institution actually is. Told with Gilbert’s trademark wit, intelligence and compassion, Committed attempts to “turn on all the lights” when it comes to matrimony, frankly examining questions of compatibility, infatuation, fidelity, family tradition, social expectations, divorce risks and humbling responsibilities. Gilbert’s memoir is ultimately a clear-eyed celebration of love with all the complexity and consequence that real love, in the real world, actually entails.

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    « A comfortable -and comforting- meditation on the institution »

    I admire Ms Gilbert's approach to the subject. This book is a carefully considered confessional-

    And I guess I should stop right there: anyone who saw 'Eat, Love, Pray' as 'self-indulgent' or 'crap on every level', keep moving. There's really nothing for you here.

    So this book is about the author approaching her second marriage, and while she does, while she's mired in all the post-9/11 complications of marrying a 'foreigner', she provides some pretty fascinating insight into the history of marriage, how it's perceived in various parts of the world, while throwing into the mix the specifics of her own experiences (and those of her parents, specifically). The result is an satisfying read...for those open to the examination. (And I do have to add that if you like her writing style...because she's written for so many men's magazines, I suppose you could put it under that banner...then the subject matter will be received well by you. While if you're not a fan of how she writes, then once again, keep moving.)

    I was especially touched by how she was able to relate some of the more personal elements of her investigation. For example, this:

    "She was happy because she had a partner, and because they were building something together, and because she believed deeply in what they were building and because it amazed her to be included in such an undertaking."

    This is not a groundbreaking book. It is, in its own way, a 'beach book'; not too much substance, not too much fluff...but stirring enough to have you gazing out at the water, having been sent off on your own examinations.
    Rating: (4 out of 5) @ 2010-09-05
    « ugh, ugh, ugh »
    I only tried to read this because it came free on my Sony e-reader. I was not a huge fan of Eat, Pray, Love and am even less of a fan of this book. It is dull, boring and I think in part- made up. Elizabeth Gilbert starts out the book apologizing over and over again (I'm not a historian, I'm not an anthropoligist) enough already, we know who you are- just write the book. She then goes into great detail about how this is a book about WESTERN marriage and then proceeds to start it off by talking about the Hmong women of Vietnam...huh? As a reader, I felt confused and duped. She gives two different examples of people who had more or less arranged marriages who could not remember meeting their spouse-(ie because it just wasn't that important), early courtship, etc. I find this highly unlikely. Partly because I AM a social scientist and know from interviewing many, many people that life-changing events such as meeting your spouse (in whatever social construction that might be) is remembered, in detail. The worst part is that she goes on and on, goes off on tangents and then you forget what she is even talking about in the first place. She is like a really boring, really chatty neighbor you just can't get away from. Well, I can get away from her, I'm not going to finish the book!0
    Rating: (1 out of 5) @ 2010-09-02
    « Recontextualizing Marriage »
    If you can think for yourself, are passionate about questioning assumptions and open to a bit of subversion read this book! Here is your chance to have your mind opened if you will allow it.
    Gilbert gives herself to the conundrum of commitment as only a very bright questioner of authority could. She gamely challenges her own nagging doubts about the institution of marriage. She explores the twisted route (or roots) of its transformation, and maps its frequent changes over the last few centuries.
    If you are perfectly comfortable following the prescribed societal routines, if you are deep fried in any kind of fundamentalist religious beliefs and opposed to discovering historical context that might rattle your adamantine notions, if you expect this book to sing the praises of the bloated undertaking that is currently assumed to fulfill all a girl's princess-shaped fantasies, go elsewhere.
    Rating: (4 out of 5) @ 2010-08-31
    « Probably won't finish »
    I hated EPL. Did not get at all how that book became such a world wide phenomenon. The woman bores me, frankly. And the only reason I am reading Committed is because I found it at a church book sale for 50 centimes. About 40 centimes too much as far as I can tell after 50 pages. Just as dreary as EPL.
    Rating: (1 out of 5) @ 2010-08-30
    « better than EPL »
    I enjoyed this book more than Eat, Pray, Love. I loved EPL as well. This book was more educational. Young people should read this before getting married. It made me laugh and cry more than Eat, Pray, Love. I enjoyed learning about how other cultures think about marriage and people from other times thought about marriage. Before I got married, I had a preconceived, "Western" idea about what marriage is. And then I got divorced. After reading Committed, I am more open to different ideas of what marriage is.
    Rating: (5 out of 5) @ 2010-08-24
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